One of our Facebook Group members posted this question for the group.
“I am feeling so stressed. Every time I’m faced with some form of setback or disappointment I just shut down and then have to try to get back up and running. Do you feel the same way? How do you deal with disappointment?”
The question is one that so many entrepreneurs face so I decided to share techniques for dealing with disappointment.
You will always face disappointment
First, you have to realize that in life you will always face disappointment and in business it is just more difficult. If you’re an employee you face setbacks and disappointments, but they are different. Most frequently if you’re an employee those setbacks are viewed as just that, a setback. There may not be any real repercussions for that setback. For some reason as business owners when something goes wrong we decide that we should scrap our entire idea and move on to something else. We view the setback as an indication that we’re poor business owners, we don’t know what we’re doing or that we should close up shop and go back to work. When you start your business be prepared to face difficulties and setbacks. Everything is NOT going to go as planned, that is certain. Setting an expectation that there will be ups and downs will help you get through the hard spots.
Be open to different possibilities
Disappointment often comes in business when we are overly attached to one possibility. Perhaps we want to make a sale, think we’ve sold something, made a significant strategic partner or reached a pinnacle of somesort. We feel disappointed when this “deal” falls through. We get so obsessed with the situation that we put all of our energy and emotion into this one situation or sale not seeing the forest for the trees. We need to always remember that this one person, relationship, marketing opportunity or leg up isn’t going to be the ONLY opportunity. If this deal falls through there will be another deals down the road. There will be another opportunity that may be a better option. Maintaining dedication and tenacity is the important skill that we must develop. I remind myself frequently, this isn’t the only person on the planet. If this person isn’t a good fit there are 10,000 others that are.
Be open to change
If something isn’t working make modifications if necessary. Don’t be so sold on your idea or concept that you aren’t able to pivot if needed. Being intimately connected to your business and seeing new opportunities for growth is essential. If your original idea or concept isn’t selling or gaining traction it might be time to try something new. If you find that prospects are asking for a product that you don’t sell, you might explore that possibility. You want to make sure that you are selling what people are buying and that you are communicating that message to them in a way that they can absorb. If you aren’t you won’t succeed. Be open to change.
Learn to be attached to the outcome, but flexible to the approach. If your business isn’t looking like you thought it would look that is okay. It doesn’t have to meet your operational expectations as long as it is serving your higher goals. If your goals are to generate a certain amount of money and your business is generating that money, but not in the way you imagined it would, let go. If you are getting new clients, but they aren’t coming from the Facebook Ads you just invested in, let that go. Be open to new ideas, new suggestions and input. Your goal is to get to your outcome and the path you take may vary.
Find an outlet of comfort in your life
If your business ventures are causing you large amounts of disappointment or the business isn’t progressing the way you hoped it would find sources of relaxation and comfort in your life. This might be a good book, a long walk, mediation, prayer, exercise, you name it. You just want to be able to regain your equilibrium. When days get hard or the stress is mounting find support from other like minded individuals who can support you in your ventures. This alone will bring relief knowing that you aren’t the only person to face disappointment.
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