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Making Decisions — Powerful Ones

Making Decisions — Powerful Ones





Why is it so hard to make a decision? Are you one of those people, you know that kind of person that hates making decisions? I used to HATE to making decisions. It really didn’t matter what I was making a decision about, I could have been choosing a restaurant for lunch, an outfit for a special occasion or even a marriage proposal. From life changing decisions to minor decisions, I hated them all. I didn’t have a good system for making decisions and thought that if I made the WRONG decision, life would come to an end. So as most people do I stalled. I just didn’t make a decision. What few people realize is that indecision is decision making. Instead of making a decision you’re choosing not to make a decision, which is decision making. You aren’t choosing your life, you’re letting your life choose you.

Why is making decisions so hard?

Why do we find making decisions so hard? Often we’re just simply afraid of being wrong. We’re afraid that if we make the wrong decision the world as we know it will come to an end, or we won’t get the outcome that we’re so fixated on. Have you ever known a survey decision maker? They can’t make a decision without the input of their 100 closest friends. When faced with a choice they think that if they ask enough people or ask the same person repeatedly they’ll get to that perfect decision. I have a friend whom I dearly love, but she can’t make a decision to save her soul. She asks my opinion on nearly all of her decisions and never seems to like the responses I give her. She knows what choices she wants make, but needs validation. She doesn’t have confidence in her decision making abilities. Needing the validation of others is a hindrance in your decision making process. There is power in all of our choices and if we have confidence in our abilities to make good choices we’ll feel empowered when given an opportunity to make a big decision.

There are techniques for making powerful decisions and the first step is to embrace the decision making process. Go out of your way to make decisions. Practice with small decisions. If someone asks where you’d like to go to lunch instead of hemming and hawing around be the first to make a suggestion. Seek out opportunities to make choices.

Here are 7 steps to making powerful decisidecision making -- which way to go?ons

1. Be decisive- don’t hem and haw, just do it

Make decisions quickly. When faced with a decision don’t spend hours, days, weeks or months obsessing over your choice. Gather the information needed to make your choice and then go for it. Don’t survey lots of people, don’t over do your fact finding just make a choice. Use your gut. Often gut feelings are better indicators than tons of facts. Weigh the gravity of the decision and plan accordingly. If you are making a huge life choice such as a career change, house purchase, marriage, etc. give the decision the time it warrants, but don’t over do it. Most of us don’t make life changing decisions each day, frequently the decisions we face are choices that we just need to make quickly and stand firm on.

Being decisive about whether to take a vacation, get your oil changed, buy a new couch, go out to eat, confronting an interpersonal issue or even the choice to take a new exercise class should all be easy choices. Make them quickly, make them decisively and your personal confidence and success will grow.

2. Get clear on your values and purpose

Get clear on your values and purpose – this will allow you to make quick decisions that are in alignment with your what you really want out of life. Studies show that most successful people make decisions quickly because they are clear on their values and purpose in life. When you are clear on your values and purpose each choice simply needs to be held up to those standards. If the choice will further you in your life purpose, or helps you live your values, the choice is an easy yes. If the choice isn’t inline with your values or doesn’t promote your purpose it is an easy no.

3. Realize that decisions have the power to change your life

Decision making is a tool that can be used at any time to change your entire life. We all make many small choices each day that add up to the sum of our lives. Each day we choice to eat healthy or cave to our bad eating habits. We choose to get up and move around, go to the gym or for a run, or sit on the couch. We choose to be a positive person, or a negative person. We choose the security of our jobs, or the risk and benefits of being a self-employed business owner. We choose to use mean critical words, or loving accepting words with our friends and family. We choose to live our purpose or medicate with an excess of alcohol, coffee or sugary treats. Each and every decision you make takes you down a path. Is the path that you’re following a path to success or a path to mediocrity? The hardest step in achieving anything is making a true commitment- a true decision. When you make decisions that lead to success, you truly change your life.

4. Learn from making decisions

You can learn from the decisions you make. As you increase the number of decisions you’re making you will have the capacity of evaluating these decision to see if the outcome was beneficial. Learn from your mistakes. If you’ve made poor decisions in the past, evaluate what about that choice resulted in an undesirable outcome. Perhaps the choice wasn’t inline with your values or your purpose. Perhaps the choice was based on your selfish desires, and not grounded in the standards that you’d like to uphold in your life. Next, think about good decisions that you’ve made. What made that decision a good choice? Was it highly beneficial to you and those around you? Why was that choice so powerful? Learning from the choices that you make is a critical step to better decision making.

5. Stay committed to the outcome

The next step in powerful decision making is to stay committed to your outcome but remain flexible in your approach. Last year I made a commitment to get in shape. I decided that if I was ever going to be in really good shape, now was the time. I joined a local fitness center and I’ve been working out three times a week for a year. I’ve definitely gotten in much better shape. When I first made the decision to get in shape I knew I had to be committed to the outcome. However, the vehicle to get me to that outcome has changed. The original fitness center I joined was quite challenging, but after a year of consistent workouts, the gym I’ve been attending no longer meets my needs. It no longer is inline with my decision to get in shape. I’ve chosen to relocate to a more challenging gym environment to stay committed to this important decision. When I made the decision to get in shape, I wasn’t making a decision to join a gym. I was making a decision to do whatever it took to get and stay in shape. I’ve allowed myself to be committed to the outcome, but flexible in my approach to create this outcome. It’s not uncommon for us to be committed to the process instead of the outcome, but the process can change. It’s the outcome that we’re after. It so valuable to realize that when making a decision, you have flexibility. Putting this step into practice will allow you the freedom that you need to feel confident in your ability to make decisions.

6. Keep your expectations in checkdecision making -- this way or that way?

Sometimes our expectations get in the way. Have you ever given any thought to your expectations? If you really think about what expectations you put on people and situations in life you’ll be blown away. I’ve found that I have expectations regarding just about everything. I expect that my family will arrive at home on time. I expect that our nightly routine of dinner, bath, reading and bedtime will be over by 8pm so that I can have some alone time. I expect that the package I ordered from Amazon will arrive in 2 days. I expect that my friends and family will be supportive and loving. I expect that if I work hard my hard work will pay off. I give 100% and I expect those I interact with to give 100%. I expect a lot. I have high expectations for myself and everyone else. This gets me in trouble (sometimes a lot of trouble).

When I make a decision, I have an expectation that the decision will turn out the way I’ve planned. The reality of life is that things don’t turn out the way you expect them too. I have to expect that things will not go as I planned them to go and be okay with that. I can be committed to my outcome but realize that when a decision involves people, that decision isn’t always going to play out the way I would like it to. I’m committed to working on growing my business a certain number of hours per week, but life happens; kids get sick, houses need emergency repairs or friends need encouragement over a cup of coffee. I can’t let a schedule change derail me from my commitment to grow my business, from my commitment to my decision. Letting go of expectations helps you to accept life’s challenges and be okay with making decisions.

7. Embrace decision making

Enjoy making decisions. If you currently dread decision making, change the way you view decisions. Looking at decisions as merely an opportunity to create the life you desire will reframe that choice allowing you to see the power of one small choice. Remember that your life is made up of a collection of small choices. Each day we make hundreds of decisions. Enjoy that process and see the choices for the power they bring.

Seven steps to making decisions — powerfully

  1. Be decisive- don’t hem and haw, just do it
  2. Get clear on your values and purpose
  3. Realize that decisions have the power to change your life
  4. Learn from your decisions
  5. Stay committed to the outcome, but flexible to the approach
  6. Keep your expectations in check
  7. Embrace decision making

Heather Osgood used to have analysis paralysis. She now loves to make decisions and makes them daily including the choice to sell a successful business she’d owned for 9 years. She also picked out all of the elements of her kitchen redesign: countertops, faucet, appliances, tile, etc. in about 2 hours and she loves her kitchen. Decisions don’t have to be paralyzing or painful, they can be opportunities for freedom. If you want to talk to Heather more about how you can make better decisions, shoot her an email at: heather@howtoquitworking.com

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Heather Osgood About Heather Osgood

Heather Osgood is a serial entrepreneur with a passion for living outside her comfort zone and continual self improvement. She started her career in advertising sales, which exposed her to the failures and successes of hundreds of small business owners. Soon her husband, Brian, convinced her that entrepreneurship is the path to true freedom and independence. Her training and knowledge in sales and marketing helped her create her first company, a trade show production company which she built and grew for over nine years and finally sold. She currently owns a hair cutting business and has just launched a product based e-commerce site with her husband. After starting multiple successful businesses, she is ready to live her true passion by helping others to start businesses perform at their peak potential. She lives by the motto-Leap and the net will appear.

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  • http://www.VacationCounts.com/ VacationCounts

    Yes, decisions do have the power to change your life – often for the better. For me making the right decision is all about the fear of regret afterward.

    The key lesson I want to add to your spot-on advice is to give ourselves permission to make the wrong decision,… sometimes. However let’s not call it the “wrong” decision. The goal is to optimize our decision making, whether it’s major purchase, taking a last-minute vacation, or changing jobs for better work-life balance benefits. A decision can be fully optimized (the ideal) or it can be less than optimized, but never completely wrong.

    -Scott, VacationCounts – Take More Vacation Time Off

    • Heather McKinney Osgood

      Scott, thank you for that valuable in put. Making optimal decisions is definitely the goal. What’s so great about decision making is that it creates the life you live. If you’re happy with that life, awesome! If you wish your life were different you simply need to make different choices.