There is a very dangerous drug on the streets. It’s called Blameoin [pronounced like: blame-o-win].
Blameoin is a drug that makes you believe that someone else is always at fault and there is nothing you can do about it, which results in you blaming others for everything.
“Whew! That’s my incompetent boss’ fault, which means I did nothing wrong and can continue to believe that I’m perfect.”
It’s certainly not your fault. If you play the “blame game”, your ego is saved.
Mission Accomplished: Ego saved.
You feel better. You just snorted the dangerous drug Blameoin. [blame + heroin = Blameoin]
Just like Heroin, you feel better in the short term, but it’s destroying your life.
Every time you snort Blameoin, you give away your power to the person you blamed.
You saved your ego, but you made yourself powerless to improve the situation. If it’s your boss’ fault, what can you do about it? Your options are limited when trying to affect other people’s actions.
Your actions are the easiest to affect. Affect them.
Ask questions like:
- Could I do that any better?
- What if I tried it this way instead of that way?
- Is there another way to look at this that might improve the situation?
Don’t confuse Blame with Fault. Taking responsibility does not necessarily mean you are at fault. The other person may have done something horribly wrong, unfair or even illegal. But the point is that blaming others will prevent you from having as much control of the situation as you potentially could.
What if you had complete control of your life? What if you were totally in control of every aspect of your life? What if you could do exactly what you want, every single moment of your life?
That’s control. Taking control means never ever, ever blaming anyone else for anything. Ever.
No More Blameoin. No more blame game.
Look around the world. Look around and imagine that everything you want is yours for the taking if you just made the decision that YOU are going to be in control of everything in your life from now on. You are going to do everything YOU can do to make your life exactly what you want it to be.
The next time something happens that you don’t like, become OBSESSED with figuring out what YOU could have done to prevent it and what YOU can do to improve it now. Become obsessed with doing what you can do now and making a better decision next time.
If you get frustrated, that means you are doing a great job. It means you are breaking your addiction to Blameoin and you are on your way to getting whatever you want.
Warning: There are Blameoin dealers everywhere. Unlike heroin dealers, Blameoin is completely legal and its use is even encouraged by the highest levels of government. Nobody will ever get in trouble for selling you Blameoin. Blameoin dealers are on television, on the Internet, in the newspaper, at coffee shops. They are even in your own home. Blameoin dealers want you to believe that someone else is controlling your life and there is nothing you can do about it, thereby making it impossible for you to have what you want. Don’t buy it.